Biblical Gender Identity

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Section: IntroCross DressingProstitutionLiving Together Not MarriedAdulteryDivorcePolygamyHomosexualityIncestAnimalsSelfAbortionConclusions

DISCLAIMER: This is a mature topic only intended for people who've at least begun puberty. If you are less than 13 years old then I pray you don't have any reason to concern yourself with this yet, and you should ask a trustworthy adult before reading this.


This is about as non-controversial of a topic as we can get (I don't hear this being defended in our culture by anyone except those who stand to profit financially from other people doing it) but since it's such a problem for us hypocrites I thought I'd list the verses just so we're crystal clear.
  • Exodus 20:14  hub & Deuteronomy 5:18  hub
  • Leviticus 18:20  hub
  • Leviticus 20:10  hub
  • Deuteronomy 22:22-29  hub
  • 2 Samuel 12:10  hub
  • Proverbs 5:1-23  hub
  • Proverbs 6:26-35  hub
  • Matthew 5:27-30  hub
  • Matthew 15:19  hub & Mark 7:21-23  hub
  • Matthew 19:18  hub
  • Mark 10:11-12  hub & Luke 16:18  hub
  • Romans 13:9  hub
  • 1 Timothy 3:2  hub
  • 1 Timothy 3:12  hub
  • Titus 1:6  hub
  • Hebrews 13:4  hub
Consider these situations where people (even very powerful people) almost did indecent things but God intervened first.
  • Genesis 12:10-20
  • Genesis 20:1-18
  • Genesis 26:6-11
Notice God didn't have to argue that adultery was wrong. They knew it already. God didn't even have to use the word, He just said "she's married" and we can imagine the look on Abimelek's face. While these stories may seem strange at face value, they teach us a valuable lesson that our culture has caused us to overlook. In early days there was a universally accepted agreement (commonly accepted by many cultures that really didn't care what each other thought) that marriage was sacred. That opinion came from somewhere. It came from God, specifically through Adam and Eve as recorded (or at least alluded to) in Genesis 2:24-25.

Let's take another perspective now. Exodus 20:14 is the 7th of the 10 Commandments. The 10th says "don't covet your neighbor's wife" (Exodus 20:17). According to, "covet" means "to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others." In other words, the 10th commandment is saying don't even think about doing what's forbidden in the previous 9. When we dive into this concept, there's what occurs to us (pops into our heads) and then there's what we allow our minds to dwell on. Paul points out that we can take our thoughts, which God knows are always selfish (Genesis 6:5, Jeremiah 17:9), and consciously force them to align with God (Colossians 3:5, 2 Corinthians 10:5). Paul's not saying this is a onetime activity and then for the rest of our lives our consciences will be clear. It's a lifelong commitment to focus our thoughts on righteousness, holiness even (1 John 2:16). Besides the fact that this is "every man's battle," even Paul may have struggled with this (2 Corinthians 12:7-9) so we shouldn't be surprised when we do too. A key point here is there's an important difference between the presence of desire in our soul and how we allow that to manifest itself (Genesis 4:7). Having a temptation is one thing (we all have them) acting on it (in even the smallest way) is another.

Adultery has an added bonus in that it's breaking a promise. Marriage is more about commitment than love. The feeling of love ebbs and flows because life is a roller coaster, not a monorail. But our commitment to each other shouldn't fluctuate. Marriage by definition is a promise and a commitment, arguably the most significant commitment of our lives. Therefore adultery can be considered the ultimate failure of an individual in their life because marriage is the foundation of strong, healthy families (Psalm 11:3) and ruins everything (including their spouse's trust, their kid's trust, and their qualifications as a respectable role model to society, just as a start). For those of you screaming "why?!" at your laptop or phone right now, here's why: Because marriage is the most important commitment in your life and the foundation of society, and committing adultery is scoffing in the face of the people you've publicly pledged your life to, for the sake of a brief, forbidden, self gratifying, selfish moment of indulgence. If this is the way you treat the most significant, most meaningful relationship in your life, what signal does that send to everyone else who you ever again make any form of promise or commitment to? By definition if we commit adultery we are publicly humiliating our family. May this always be taboo. Now, this side of the cross, even if a person fails in this regard doesn't mean we are commanded to divorce and shun that person. We are all fallen people (Psalm 143:2, Romans 3:10) and the condition of the heart is critically important when deciding what to do after a failure. The topics of forgiveness and repentance are incredibly important and deserve entire books.

From a whole other perspective, it's only a little different if a person is driven to adultery. Sometimes a wife can feel like a single parent because her husband puts all of his energy into his job and leaves none for his family. This is an easy trap for a man to get in, for many reasons (including 2 Thessalonians 3:10). That doesn't make adultery any more acceptable, but does mean both are to blame, not just the one caught in the act. Because husbands are commanded to love their wives (Exodus 21:10, Ephesians 5:33, Colossians 3:19) and negligence of this is very serious (Malachi 2:13-15). A spouse can't avoid the penalties of adultery or divorce by simply "checking out" of the relationship, but skipping the formality of either of these sins. A couple dealing with this problem is in a desperately sad situation and needs outside help.

Similarly, if a couple acts like a married couple for a significant time and then one of you just gets bored and decides to sleep around, that's not really better just because you never technically got married. In the eyes of the law it's very different, but to God this is still adultery (Exodus 22:16, Mark 10:6-9).

Lastly, there's a related concept here that should be mentioned. Jesus essentially said that pornography is no better than adultery (Matthew 5:27-28).

Last Modified: Sunday, November 19, 2017