Biblical Gender Identity

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DISCLAIMER: This is a mature topic only intended for people who've at least begun puberty. If you are less than 13 years old then I pray you don't have any reason to concern yourself with this yet, and you should ask a trustworthy adult before reading this.


Since this is arguably the most controversial of all these gender identity topics, please read these scripture passages first, then I'll make a few points. This page is not about me telling you my opinion but rather is about us taking an honest look at what God has said, and a brief attempt to explore why and what it means.

  • Leviticus 18:22  hub
  • Leviticus 20:13  hub
  • Romans 1:26-27  hub
  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-10  hub
  • 1 Timothy 1:9-10  hub
  1. If we take God's word seriously then we have to conclude that homosexuality is a sin. As described in God's word, all sin rooted in choice. Therefore by definition homosexuality is a choice, so it deserves no protection and no benefits. Like any sin, some people are more tempted by it than others, but we must all repress any urge to sin and acknowledge that any thought or activity is wrong. The only reason for rebuking this topic so harshly is people have excused and defended it so strongly. But while it's very important to call sin what it is, we should be equally as concerned with helping/​encouraging people who burn with desire (James 5:19-20).
  2. Nobody deserves persecution (not even homosexuals) and all people need protection (even homosexuals) from evil (in its many forms). Remember, this is not an unforgivable sin and these people need to be treated with love just like anyone else (Jude 1:22-23). We must also be careful how we handle sins we do not personally struggle with, lest our motives and intentions be misinterpreted. But fewer people will misinterpret love than condemnation, and the Holy Spirit can take care of convicting any sinner. (Galatians 6:1,10)
  3. There is an important comparison to make between homosexuality and adultery. In the 10th Commandment, God tells us not to covet any married woman (Exodus 20:17). (And it's not a stretch to say men shouldn't "covet" any girl or woman.) God's not an evil fascist dictator, He's a loving, disciplining father (Deuteronomy 8:5, Proverbs 3:11-12, Proverbs 13:24, Hebrews 12:9-12) with an incomprehensibly strong grasp on right and wrong (Ezekiel 18:20-28). So while He's saying in the 10th Commandment, "don't even think about it," the point isn't instant condemnation to hell just because we had a thought. The point is don't dwell on it, don't entertain this kind of thinking (Genesis 4:7). Notice the language in these passages: "don't have sexual relations," "committed shameful acts," "who have sex," and "for those practicing." The same scorn and condemnation falls from God on a man who "has adultery," "commits adultery," or "practices adultery" (Exodus 20:14, Leviticus 20:10). And to make sure we don't even get close to "crossing the line," He not only forbids us from doing these things, He also says "don't even think about it."
  4. Taking God's word literally would mean we have to kill all homosexuals and all adulterers. Taking God's word seriously gives us a little room to say that Jesus paid the price for all our sins (John 3:16, Romans 5:8, 1 John 2:1) and that while the death penalty has been commuted, the nature of the words "detestable, shameful, unnatural, wrongdoer," and the phrase "not for the righteous" may not be overlooked. The theme of hating evil is clearly repeated in scripture (Proverbs 8:13, Amos 5:15, Romans 12:9, 1 John 3:8) and there's no reason to believe the definition of evil (read: sin) should be altered as society changes.
  5. Don't be identified by who you have sex with. A happily married couple with healthy relationships (both together and with a broader community) could have sex on average once or twice a week (about a hundred times a year) which means spending maybe an hour a week naked together (and awake). When there are 168 hours in a week (112 waking hours) what a small, small fraction of our lives to be defining our identity by. A man shouldn't associate feelings for any woman, besides the one he's already married to, with his core identity (adulterer, fornicator, rapist). And neither should a man who happens to have feelings for other men (homosexual) and we shouldn't let anyone else label us that way either. It's not healthy for ourselves nor our society. By the way, our culture is quick to claim people who defend Biblical worldviews have homophobia, or a fear/​hatred of homosexuals. This is an unwarranted extrapolation and assumes standards must at all times come with emotions. Conversely, people who are supportive of homosexual choices demonstrate homophilia.
  • Genesis 19:5-7  hub
  • Deuteronomy 22:5  hub
  • Judges 19:22-24  hub
  • 2 Peter 2:6-8  hub
  • Jude 1:7  hub
God, through the prophets, reinforces the righteousness of the destruction of Sodom & Gomorrah multiple times (Isaiah 3:9, Ezekiel 16:53-58). Jesus confirms the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah (Genesis 18:20-21) was specifically that of homosexuality when he affirmed that as soon as Lot left, the towns were destroyed (Luke 17:29, Genesis 19:23-25). What Lot recognized as wicked was what was wicked, not any other random sin we can excuse (Genesis 19:5-7).

Jude uses a choice word. Perversion (according to Google) is "the alteration of something from its original course, meaning, or state to a distortion or corruption of what was first intended." All of these examples of sexual immorality can fit this description (including cross dressing, prostitution, living together, adultery, divorce, homosexuality, incest, bestiality, and masturbation). Note the word "perversion" has a specific, informative meaning and is not being used as a derogatory term. God invented the concept of "love the sinner, hate the sin" long before we recognized it. (God's embracing this concept was demonstrated in His reaction to our sins as early as in Genesis 3 & 4.)

Sadly, some people who don't approve of homosexuality are excessively violent in their opinion. And some of those people simply have an opinion with no basis for it other than neophobia (the fear or dislike of anything unfamiliar). But to a God fearing, Bible believing Christian, this is the opposite of fear and the opposite of hate. It's an honest belief that God knows best, all people have value, and every individual and all of society will be better when aligned with their Creator. Jesus explicitly said in Matthew 5:19 and Mark 9:42 not to disregard God's opinions, and not to teach kids to either. We neither want our kids to be dragged away from God nor do we want our neighbors. Those who are violent in their opinions are forgetting the character of God (for example Philippians 2:3-4) but God's people can do some dumb things. Because all people do dumb things. Don't blame God for his followers. They upset Him long before they upset you (Ezekiel 36:22-23). Neither violence nor sin deserve defense.

All sin is choice no matter how a government classifies it. This makes for annoying dilemmas when the law conflicts with our morals. (Morals are the study or application of right and wrong from an absolute or spiritual perspective, ethics are the same study from a relative or social/​cultural perspective.) When push comes to shove, we should always obey God's laws over man's (Daniel 6:13, Acts 5:29) but not every disagreement means we have to rebel (Romans 13:1-2, 1 Peter 2:13-15). Most of us don't even agree with everything our own church does, much less our government. The trick is to be respectful (of both our neighbors, our leaders, and our laws) without compromising our beliefs. The people who advocate for sexual liberty and same-sex marriage have played heavily the "civil rights" card. They want the public to believe that calling homosexuality a sin, or defining marriage as between a single man and woman, is no different than racial or gender discrimination. The most famous person in American civil rights history was Martin Luther King, Jr. Because of this, many pro-homosexual people have tried to say MLK would have been on their side to elevate sexual orientation to a protected & honored status in government literature. But let's look at one of his most famous quotes, written from a Birmingham Jail:

There are two types of laws: just and unjust. I would be the first to advocate obeying just laws. One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws. I would agree with St. Augustine that "an unjust law is no law at all." Now, what is the difference between the two? How does one determine whether a law is just or unjust? A just law is a man made code that squares with the moral law or the law of God. An unjust law is a code that is out of harmony with the moral law. To put it in the terms of St. Thomas Aquinas: An unjust law is a human law that is not rooted in eternal law and natural law. (full quote)

There is a huge difference between (a) discriminating against a person because my ancestors crossed an ocean to arbitrarily pick up their ancestors and haul them back across the ocean to be a slave, or they just look like someone who's ancestors might have been treated that way, and (b) telling people they shouldn't choose to do what God declared wrong. This is a great example of how the issue of homosexuality isn't really about sexual orientation after all. This is about whether we have a Creator and (equally important) whether we're accountable to His standards/​expectations. Because it's a symptom and not a cause, arguments directly about homosexuality have little chance for success. This is one of many reasons why knowing and understanding our Creator, as revealed in the Bible, is vitally important.

To end on a somewhat affirmative note, it may be a strange idea to some, but just because same gender attraction is a sin does not mean two men or two women cannot be better friends than some married couples. And that is fine. However, it should not be used as an excuse to either (1) pervert the concept of marriage nor (2) tolerate sexual immorality.

Last Modified: Thursday, October 26, 2017