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Disclaimers:

1. This is a mature topic only intended for people who've at least begun puberty. If you are less than 13 years old then I pray you don't have any reason to concern yourself with this yet, and you should ask a trustworthy adult before reading this. (My Family in the Bible page (here) is meant for all ages.)

2. This summary is not intended for general counseling, it is for those who want to know what the Bible says on this topic, and for those who claim the Bible is silent or says the opposite, plus a little commentary to get us started on what it means and how all this fits in a Biblical worldview.

Self Stimulation

Unlike the aforementioned topics, this one seems to have zero direct references, so we must be careful to minimize our own bias. The technical term here is masturbation, and neither the word nor the action are explicitly described anywhere in the Bible. This absence doesn't make it good, nor does it automatically make it bad. If we read closely though, there is one passage where God describes this in a similar way that He uses the tame phrase "marriage bed" to alude to full blown intercourse in Hebrews 13:4.

Semi-direct

Leviticus 15:16-17 hub

This seems to be referring to masturbation, and it is explicitly described as making us unclean, not immoral. This is an important distinction as already detailed in the Homosexuality section, above. As a reminder, being unclean is a formality, a method God used to (1) differentiate His people from their neighbors, and (2) encourage good hygiene at a time in civilization when we had no idea (no detailed understanding) about diseases and microbiomes. Sexually transmitted diseases (STD) are not a new thing, they were probably around in Moses's day.

God commanded when semen is released the man should bathe (LE 15:16). In the next sentence (LE 15:17, which is clearly a continuation of the previous sentence) the man is supposed to wash any clothing or leather that gets semen on it. No mention of women is made until the third sentence (LE 15:18) which is clearly not a continuation of the previous sentence because He's going out of His way to contrast "emission of semen" and "sexual relations." The implication is all sexual relations are assumed will have semen transfer, but there is another kind of semen release that doesn't involve transfer to another person, just a release, so God politely calls that an "emission." Clearly Leviticus 15:16-17 is referring to self stimulation because semen is never exposed to air without a male orgasm, and orgasms don't happen by accident. God didn't mince words when he called every sexual perversion either detestable, dishonorable, or wicked, but here He just says this is unclean, therefore it's wrong for any of us to categorically call it immoral. (We can easily think up scenarios where a person pleasures themself in a non-private setting which then forces thoughts of sex on innocent bistanders and therefore crosses the line into sexual immorality.) Besides it's God's right to decide what's right and wrong, good and bad, there are two likely practical reasons for this activity being classified as unclean:

First, when a man gratifies himself and semen comes out, it's got to go somewhere. So if it gets on clothes, wash them, because

at this point we don't know if the man doing this had an STD and we wouldn't want that hanging around and contaminating someone else, and
semen has an odor that's very recognizable and we don't need other people being subjected to that smell and thereby forced to think of sex.

Similarly, a dried semen spill is generally recognizable, even after the smell has dissipated, and no one wants to interact with that on general principal. So God is commanding "be polite and wash it off," both off your body, your clothes, you saddle, and whatever it may have gotten on, wherever you were. And preferrably do it discretely. This is 100% different than saying "your blood will be in your own head" (for example, Leviticus 20:11-13) or "that's detestable" (for example, Leviticus 18:22,29.)

To be clear, I'm not advocating that pleasuring one's self is a good thing, I'm just pointing out in God's word He neither forbade it nor declared it immoral, even in the one time He brought up the topic and had every opportunity to do so. There is more to the topic though, so keep reading:

Indirect

1 Corinthians 6:12-13 hub
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 hub
2 Timothy 2:22 hub

Matthew 5:28-30 hub
Colossians 3:5 hub
1 Peter 2:11 hub
James 1:14-15 hub

Romans 6:12-14 hub
Romans 8:5-8 hub
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 hub

Psalm 119:9 hub
1 Corinthians 9:27 hub
2 Corinthians 10:5 hub
1 Corinthians 10:31 hub
Galatians 5:13 hub
Galatians 5:16 hub
Philippians 4:8 hub
2 Timothy 1:7 hub

1 Corinthians 7:1-5 hub
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 hub

Might seem related but are not

Genesis 38:6-10 hub (Onan wasn't pleasuring himself alone, he blurred the lines of rape)
Deuteronomy 23:10-11 hub (Nocturnal isn't voluntary/conscious)

Worldview

There are some theological principles to keep in mind, as well as a very practical one. The practical problem with self stimulation is it sets us up for disappointment later, for two reasons. First, any heterosexual partner (preferably only your current husband or wife) has never experienced what it's like to have your reproductive organs. Second, they're not telepathic. They may have read a book or watched a movie or been told by a friend or practiced on you enough to know basically how your erogenous zones work, but they've never experienced it. When you pleasure yourself, you know exactly what, how, where, and when to do it. It's highly unlikely your partner will be able to live up to that, so it's recommendable not to engage in activities that will cause you to have unrealistic expectations for your partner. But that logic could be argued against or ignored.

It's not my authority nor my intent to call something right or wrong if God didn't. And adding to scripture is bad, as Adam and Eve experienced in Gen 3:2-3 and John was told in Rev 22:18-19. But clearly there are better things to do and think about than gratifying ourselves. Even if for argument's sake we say the practice of pleasuring yourself is acceptable, then perhaps we might compare it to dancing. Dancing as a category is fine. But it's easy to agree there are certain kinds of dancing that are more risqué than others because they are choreographed specifically to lead to adulterous or fornicating thoughts. So dancing is sometimes fine, sometimes not. This topic might, at best, on a good day, be described similarly. Remember that scripture describes sexual relations as exclusively appropriate in a heterosexual marriage and then logically implies that everything else is sexual immorality. So be very careful to avoid the slippery slope. Also remember the wisest man who ever lived made a great point in Song of Solomon 8:4. While he specifically addresses females, the concept certainly applies to both genders. Notice Solomon didn't give a command, he gave a genuine, heart-felt, and fully-justified-by-experience warning.

Last Modified: Thursday, September 10, 2026


	Biblical Gender Identity Site: Jayden12.com › Rock › Gender Identity › Self (Mobile) - Full Site Section: Intro ⋅ Single ⋅ Marriage ⋅ Adultery ⋅ Living Together Not Married ⋅ Prostitution ⋅ Cross Dressing ⋅ Homosexuality ⋅ Animals ⋅ Incest ⋅ Self ⋅ Cycle ⋅ Polygamy ⋅ Divorce ⋅ Abortion ⋅ Adoption ⋅ Style ⋅ General ⋅ Conclusions Translate: Arabic ⋅ Chinese ⋅ French ⋅ German ⋅ Greek ⋅ Hebrew ⋅ Portuguese ⋅ Russian ⋅ Spanish Disclaimers: 1. This is a mature topic only intended for people who've at least begun puberty. If you are less than 13 years old then I pray you don't have any reason to concern yourself with this yet, and you should ask a trustworthy adult before reading this. (My Family in the Bible page (here) is meant for all ages.) 2. This summary is not intended for general counseling, it is for those who want to know what the Bible says on this topic, and for those who claim the Bible is silent or says the opposite, plus a little commentary to get us started on what it means and how all this fits in a Biblical worldview.

	Self Stimulation

	Unlike the aforementioned topics, this one seems to have zero direct references, so we must be careful to minimize our own bias. The technical term here is masturbation, and neither the word nor the action are explicitly described anywhere in the Bible. This absence doesn't make it good, nor does it automatically make it bad. If we read closely though, there is one passage where God describes this in a similar way that He uses the tame phrase "marriage bed" to alude to full blown intercourse in Hebrews 13:4. Semi-direct Leviticus 15:16-17 hub This seems to be referring to masturbation, and it is explicitly described as making us unclean, not immoral. This is an important distinction as already detailed in the Homosexuality section, above. As a reminder, being unclean is a formality, a method God used to (1) differentiate His people from their neighbors, and (2) encourage good hygiene at a time in civilization when we had no idea (no detailed understanding) about diseases and microbiomes. Sexually transmitted diseases (STD) are not a new thing, they were probably around in Moses's day. God commanded when semen is released the man should bathe (LE 15:16). In the next sentence (LE 15:17, which is clearly a continuation of the previous sentence) the man is supposed to wash any clothing or leather that gets semen on it. No mention of women is made until the third sentence (LE 15:18) which is clearly not a continuation of the previous sentence because He's going out of His way to contrast "emission of semen" and "sexual relations." The implication is all sexual relations are assumed will have semen transfer, but there is another kind of semen release that doesn't involve transfer to another person, just a release, so God politely calls that an "emission." Clearly Leviticus 15:16-17 is referring to self stimulation because semen is never exposed to air without a male orgasm, and orgasms don't happen by accident. God didn't mince words when he called every sexual perversion either detestable, dishonorable, or wicked, but here He just says this is unclean, therefore it's wrong for any of us to categorically call it immoral. (We can easily think up scenarios where a person pleasures themself in a non-private setting which then forces thoughts of sex on innocent bistanders and therefore crosses the line into sexual immorality.) Besides it's God's right to decide what's right and wrong, good and bad, there are two likely practical reasons for this activity being classified as unclean: First, when a man gratifies himself and semen comes out, it's got to go somewhere. So if it gets on clothes, wash them, because at this point we don't know if the man doing this had an STD and we wouldn't want that hanging around and contaminating someone else, and semen has an odor that's very recognizable and we don't need other people being subjected to that smell and thereby forced to think of sex. Similarly, a dried semen spill is generally recognizable, even after the smell has dissipated, and no one wants to interact with that on general principal. So God is commanding "be polite and wash it off," both off your body, your clothes, you saddle, and whatever it may have gotten on, wherever you were. And preferrably do it discretely. This is 100% different than saying "your blood will be in your own head" (for example, Leviticus 20:11-13) or "that's detestable" (for example, Leviticus 18:22,29.) To be clear, I'm not advocating that pleasuring one's self is a good thing, I'm just pointing out in God's word He neither forbade it nor declared it immoral, even in the one time He brought up the topic and had every opportunity to do so. There is more to the topic though, so keep reading: Indirect 1 Corinthians 6:12-13 hub 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 hub 2 Timothy 2:22 hub Matthew 5:28-30 hub Colossians 3:5 hub 1 Peter 2:11 hub James 1:14-15 hub Romans 6:12-14 hub Romans 8:5-8 hub 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 hub Psalm 119:9 hub 1 Corinthians 9:27 hub 2 Corinthians 10:5 hub 1 Corinthians 10:31 hub Galatians 5:13 hub Galatians 5:16 hub Philippians 4:8 hub 2 Timothy 1:7 hub 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 hub 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 hub Might seem related but are not Genesis 38:6-10 hub (Onan wasn't pleasuring himself alone, he blurred the lines of rape) Deuteronomy 23:10-11 hub (Nocturnal isn't voluntary/conscious) Worldview There are some theological principles to keep in mind, as well as a very practical one. The practical problem with self stimulation is it sets us up for disappointment later, for two reasons. First, any heterosexual partner (preferably only your current husband or wife) has never experienced what it's like to have your reproductive organs. Second, they're not telepathic. They may have read a book or watched a movie or been told by a friend or practiced on you enough to know basically how your erogenous zones work, but they've never experienced it. When you pleasure yourself, you know exactly what, how, where, and when to do it. It's highly unlikely your partner will be able to live up to that, so it's recommendable not to engage in activities that will cause you to have unrealistic expectations for your partner. But that logic could be argued against or ignored. It's not my authority nor my intent to call something right or wrong if God didn't. And adding to scripture is bad, as Adam and Eve experienced in Gen 3:2-3 and John was told in Rev 22:18-19. But clearly there are better things to do and think about than gratifying ourselves. Even if for argument's sake we say the practice of pleasuring yourself is acceptable, then perhaps we might compare it to dancing. Dancing as a category is fine. But it's easy to agree there are certain kinds of dancing that are more risqué than others because they are choreographed specifically to lead to adulterous or fornicating thoughts. So dancing is sometimes fine, sometimes not. This topic might, at best, on a good day, be described similarly. Remember that scripture describes sexual relations as exclusively appropriate in a heterosexual marriage and then logically implies that everything else is sexual immorality. So be very careful to avoid the slippery slope. Also remember the wisest man who ever lived made a great point in Song of Solomon 8:4. While he specifically addresses females, the concept certainly applies to both genders. Notice Solomon didn't give a command, he gave a genuine, heart-felt, and fully-justified-by-experience warning. Last Modified: Thursday, September 10, 2026